Slick’s room, Sunday 17th May, 18:09
Hello everyone. My name is Slick, and I am nerd.
There, that wasn’t so hard now was it? Now, I have been a self-described nerd for as long as I can remember, but lets clarify our terms a little- “nerd” means different things to different people. The issue becomes cloudier still when you consider similar terms like “geek” and whether or not they are synonymous. For a lot of people, a “nerd” is someone who works really hard towards academic success and has no social life. This is not me. For some people, a nerd is someone who is really good at computers. This is also not me. I don’t work hard at all, and I know nothing about computers (btw, for me the term “geek” is really linked to the whole computer skill thing)- I can just about operate video games and word. When I say that I am a nerd, what I mean is that I play lots of video games, am fascinated by sci-fi/fantasy novels in a Tolkienesque or Asimovesque vein, I love Star Wars, enjoy Star Trek, and have been known to indulge in some D&D style role-playing games. I also watch way too many internet cartoons, read some webcomics and understand in depth references to aforementioned cartoons and comics which leave most people scratching their heads in puzzlement. On the other hand, I have an active social life, I love to have a drink or two, go out clubbing or go to a party, go to a heavy metal gig, or play some poker. Also, I now practice martial arts, and I have enjoyed… moderate amounts of success pursuing a number of good looking ladies. So the thing I’d like to consider today is, is it possible to be both nerdy and cool at the same time? I like to hope so- in fact I like to consider myself a prime example of just such a fusion.
Why is it that certain activities necessarily involve a social stigma of being “nerdy” (e.g D&D), while certain other activities (e.g drinking) are seen as cool? Who decides? Is it simply a popularity issue- things which lots of people enjoy are “cool” but more obscure hobbies/interests are “lame”? This idea has some merit, but there are some universally enjoyed activities- such as video games (and don’t tell me, if you’re a male aged between 10 and 25, that you don’t enjoy a good video game) that can be considered quite nerdy. Equally, some quite niche activities can be considered “cool”- sky diving, for example. Perhaps, then, it is the nature of the activity- its sociability or physicality- which makes something cool/nerdy? Again, this idea has some merit, but there are some obvious exceptions- fantasy roleplaying or wargaming is, by its very nature, quite a sociable activity, and yet it is considered pretty much the height of nerdiness. Live action roleplaying (dressing up in fake medieval armor and hitting each other with foam weaponry) is sociable, takes place outside (rather than in someones parent’s basement) and quite physical, and yet it is nerdier still. The only really consistent rule I can see is that competitive sports are pretty universally “cool” or, at the least, not nerdy.
So it appears that the rules for things being “nerdy” are quite obscure, and even quite flexible- I remember in secondary school, for a term or two the card game “magic the gathering”, which is pretty damn nerdy, became quite mainstream- at least in my year. Some of the cool kids were seen engaging in it. But there are some pretty reliable rules of thumb- sci-fi and fantasy is nerdy, sports are cool, for example. As to why this might be the case, I’m going once more to take a leaf out of evolutionary biology’s book ( I know, I’m such a nerd). Sports are physical activities, which favour the strong and the fast. The alpha males, (and females) in other words. So, because we are predisposed to form our societies in a sort of heirarchical fashion, those activities which favour the people at the top of the evolutionary heap become the favoured activities of the society- the “cool” activities. Those activities favoured by the slow, the pale and the weak- the omega males (and females) become uncool- nerdy activities. Now, don’t go using this theory in a sociology essay- I’m really just guessing and cobbling together fairly scattered bits of knowledge and educated guesswork. In addition, the little scenario I’ve just laid out doesn’t really explain why non-sporty things, like drinking and clubbing, are “cool” rather than nerdy, nor why the less physically able amongst us tend to enjoy things like D&D or Star Wars.
Of course, it is also possible to look at the question from a different angle- perhaps it is not activities which are “cool” or “nerdy”, but people. Perhpas a certain type of people are inherently nerds, and they just happen, by coincidence as it were, to enjoy a particular type or types of activity, and so these activities are eventually considered “nerdy” in themselves- and the inverse is true for “cool” people and “cool” activities. However, this is sort of an awkward chicken-and-egg situation. Also, I personally don’t like to think that people are either nerdy or cool- I like to think that everyone (or at least, most people) are a little of both. And once more, there is no obvious explanation of why “nerdy” people enjoy the things they enjoy.
Now, on to the question of whether or not coolness and nerdiness can work together in perfect harmony. Does anyone watch the inbetweeners? At school, me and my friends were basically like the guys from the inbetweeners. We were way down on the lowest rungs of the social ladder, but I like to think that, if you took the time to get to know us, we were all cool and interesting in our own, offbeat sort of way. Occasionally people would pick on us- but, because my school was a nice, reserved, middle class grammar school- a nerd school, in other words- it never went further than a little mocking banter. By contrast, my brother used to tell me that anyone in his school as nerdy as we were would have received fairly regular beatings- thank god for the grammar school system. Anyway- when we reached sixth form, girls were allowed to join the school. Suddenly these enchanting, alien creatures provided a reason to not be social rejects. Suddenly, there was a reason to try and be cool- or, at least, not be hopelessly lame. We were forced to adapt, or die (socially speaking of course) and I, at least, adapted. I retained all of my nerdy interests, while at the same time cultivating more of an interest in music, and socialising. I starting dating Rainbow, I met her friends, and before I knew what was happening to me, I had female friends. I was going to gigs, hanging out in the park, going to house parties where people were drinking alcohol- and every now and then, staying in for a halo marathon with my old pals. Then Rainbow broke up with me, and I spent a month travelling Europe- I discovered the wonders of alcohol, met complete strangers and got drunk with them, partied on a ferry, got drunk, saw new places, got drunk, and generally left my comforting shell further and further behind. And so it was that I arrived at uni, fully nerdy and yet fully capable of drinking, making new friends, going to clubs, and generally having an awesome time.
Of course, there’s always the chance that I am hopelessly deluded. Maybe I am still a complete nerd, despite my thin veneer of social grace. Maybe all the “cool kids” still secretly mock me, and all my friends are nerds too, or else hanging out with me in order to seem cooler by comparison. Maybe some of them wont speak to me now that I’ve admitted to playing D&D. But maybe, I am living proof that it is possible to be a nerd, but to also be cool- or at least, to have lots of friends who like you, and go out lots meeting new people and having a good time, which is the best I can ask for, really.
One final note: I have noticed an intriguing trend lately of people who are clearly not nerds themselves expressing admiration for, or a penchant for, nerds. One of my housemates (lets call her May) once claimed that she “loved nerds” ( in response to which I was obliged to point out my extreme nerdiness), and I’ve seen a couple of girls wearing t-shirts which expressed the same sentiment. Could it be that being nerdy has, bizarrely, somehow become “cool”? Is that just a contradiction? Or is it simply some sort of ironic fad? My gut feeling is that if I went up to a girl in a bar who wore a t-shirt bearing the “I love nerds” slogan, and explained to her how much I loved Star Wars, it would not end in me getting her phone number.
Live long, and prosper,
Slick. (can you tell I’m going to see the new Star Trek movie later?)